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Alex Staniforth is an executive coach, leadership coach and team coach.

October 2018

Contact & the Practice of Joy

In many contemporary cultures, joy is often treated as a reward: something earned after difficulty has been overcome. We work hard, endure suffering, solve problems, and perhaps, if we are fortunate, joy arrives at the end of it all. The Plum Village tradition of Zen Buddhism, founded by Thich Nhat Hanh, offers a different view. Joy is not merely the outcome of a good life. Joy itself is a practice enabling a good life to manifest. In Gestalt terms, joy increases the organism's capacity for contact at the boundary, rather than withdrawal from it.

This distinction matters. Because if we wait for joy until suffering disappears, we may wait forever.

Thich Nhat Hanh repeatedly taught that suffering and joy are not opposites. They belong to one another. In his book No Mud, No Lotus, he writes that without mud there can be no lotus flower. Suffering is not an error in life but part of the conditions from which understanding, compassion, and joy emerge. Yet this does not mean we should immerse ourselves exclusively in pain. Rather, we cultivate joy precisely so that we can remain open when suffering arrives. One of his most enduring teachings is this:

"Life is filled with suffering, but it is also filled with many wonders." 

This is not optimism in the conventional sense. It is an invitation to widen our field of attention. The blue sky exists alongside grief. Birds sing while wars continue. A cup of tea can be warm even when the heart is heavy. The practice is not to deny suffering but rather to become large enough to hold both.

Within the Plum Village tradition there is a profound insight: joy strengthens our capacity to suffer well. If we have not cultivated moments of nourishment, beauty, and delight, our inner resources become depleted. The heart closes in self-protection. But when joy has been intentionally watered, through mindfulness, community, beauty, or simple presence, we develop the capacity to remain open to difficulty without becoming overwhelmed.

Generating joy comes first because it gives one the stability to embrace suffering rather than fear it. Joy is not a spiritual bypass; it is a form of courage. To generate joy is itself an act of resistance in difficult times.

Thich Nhat Hanh often taught that happiness is available in the present moment, not because life is perfect, but because life is present. When we breathe mindfully, walk slowly, or drink tea with full attention, ordinary moments reveal themselves as extraordinary. Mindfulness does not create beauty; it reveals the beauty that was already there.

Joy, then, is not excitement. It is intimacy with life.

There is something deeply practical in this teaching. We do not wait until we are joyful to practise joy. We cultivate the conditions of attention from which joy naturally arises.

This cultivation can be remarkably ordinary.

Walking slowly enough to notice beauty: Thich Nhat Hanh often invited practitioners to walk as though kissing the Earth with their feet. A five-minute walk without a destination can become a practice of joy. Feel the contact between foot and ground. Notice light through leaves. Allow arrival rather than striving. 

Drinking tea without multitasking: One cup of tea can become a complete world: warmth, aroma, texture, breath. Joy often enters not through intensity but through undivided attention.

Keeping company with wonder: The sky after rain. Moss on stone. A dog's contentment. The sound of laughter from another room. The Plum Village tradition speaks of being in touch with the wonders of life because they nourish the heart's resilience. 

Practising gratitude through the body: Before sleep, pause and notice three conditions of happiness already present: functioning lungs, shelter, friendship, running water, eyesight, or simply the fact of being alive. I like to begin my day with a hand over my heart and the other over my belly saying quietly 'I am enough, I am home'. 

Belonging to community: Joy in Plum Village is not only individual. Joy spreads relationally. A smile, a shared meal, collective silence, or mindful conversation become forms of mutual nourishment. As Plum Village teachers often note, joy does not end at the skin; it radiates outward into the world.

Perhaps one of Thich Nhat Hanh's most radical insights is that joy is not selfish. To care for our capacity for joy is also to care for others. A person who has cultivated moments of peace can remain more available in times of crisis. A heart that knows beauty is less likely to harden in despair.

Joy is not an escape from suffering.

Joy is what helps us remain open through and with it.

In this sense, joy becomes a discipline of openness: a way of keeping the heart supple enough to encounter grief without collapsing into it, and beauty without grasping it.

The practice is simple, though not always easy: Breathe. Notice. Receive. Delight.

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